ALL intimate relationships come with unavoidable and avoidable pain. Our thoughts, emotions and experiences are the unavoidable pain that we as individuals bring into a relationship. How we respond to both our own and our partner’s unavoidable pain is the part of the relationship we can control, and thus reduce or perhaps even eliminate avoidable pain. In order to repair, improve and strengthen the relationship, you must learn how to respond more effectively (and lovingly) to the unavoidable. At Bayview Counseling Services, you will learn how to differentiate between avoidable and unavoidable pain; let go of controlling or avoidant behaviors; build resilience and tolerance for unavoidable pain; and become more effective at turning your focus and energy toward what truly matters -- acceptance, intimacy, laughter, passion and trust.